If someone doesn’t see what is in front of them, explaining it will not help. You don’t have to prove that the sun shines, that water is wet, or that you exist. The same applies if a person questions your significance — you cannot prove it. If you were born here, your significance, your importance, is already decided, already proven. That’s it.
Trying to prove it is the worst thing you can do. The moment you start convincing someone that they need you, that they should value you, that they should choose you, marry you, is the moment you have already lost them — and most importantly, lost yourself and your dignity. Without dignity, you are just a piece of meat meant to be used, to be consumed by others in this world. Everyone speaks about self-love, but few explain what it is, how to measure it, or how to know if you really love yourself. It is too individual and abstract.
To me, self-respect is something more tangible, easier to measure and apply in everyday life, and I always say to start with it. If you respect yourself, you will never chase, push, or plead. You will know that what belongs to you will not need any proof, and who is aligned with you will not hesitate to meet — whether in love, business, or friendship. It is the connection between your birth charts.
Someone’s planets fall into your twelfth house, and you will see this person as an illusion, as if in a fog — idealizing them but never truly grasping them. Someone’s planets fall into your eighth house, and it means this relationship will truly challenge you. Someone’s planets fall into your sixth house, and you will feel that this bond is more like an obligation, where you will play the role of a servant. It’s important to understand that not all relationships are meant to last, not all desires are meant to be followed. We live in Maya. Some relationships are meant to teach, some are meant to burn, some are just unfinished business from the past, and some are like transits — passing by and never returning.
If you have to convince someone what they should feel for you, stop. Look around; you’re already in the wrong place. Better to ask yourself, “How did I find myself here?” Some people will understand you immediately, and some will never see you. And it’s not because there is something wrong with you.
This is not about you. It is because your planets are not aligned. In this person’s mind, there is no “chip” to hold you. You understand? You can force attention, you can demand conversations, but you can never demand alignment.
Your birth charts have already spoken, and the way your birth charts communicate will never change. There is a simple test: stop explaining, stop proving how wonderful you are, stop adjusting, stop spitting on your own needs and values.
Stop shrinking so that they can understand, and then watch. Watch who will stay even though you stopped adjusting, and watch who will go because your relationship was only possible when you allowed yourself to be used and tried hard to be loved. The ones who are meant to be in your life don’t need to be convinced. And the ones who need proof, no matter how hard you try, will not believe it anyway. The hardest endings are the ones that were inevitable from the beginning — from that moment when you started pretending, compromising too much, and lying to yourself that something would change.